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Author – Mark Manson

In this generation-defining self-assistance guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to cease trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. – Goodreads Synopsis

This 1 has been at the summit of the charts for a while, and subsequently it has been recommended to me multiple times, I thought what the hell. I'm not one much for "self-aid" books, (Mayhap that's why I have so many problems…) merely this one promises to be different from all the rest. I secretly thought that most books like this were just a scam trying to make a quick cadet by telling you to simply be happy. This i is a bit different (Y'all can tell past the title alone), and that is because it knows the target audience – Millennials. (Scary OoOoOoOo)

Millennial has been tossed around in the media and from everyone else that is non a "Millennial" and usually information technology is associated with a negative connotation. The word "entitled" is e'er used in conjunction with Millennial too. Mark Manson also knows this, and speaks in depth nigh this feeling of entitlement. What really stuck out to me was how Mark explains that in that location are actually 2 ways to aqueduct that entitlement. At that place is the first way that everyone knows: that you deserve something more than because of who you lot are/what y'all've done, and the second mode: that considering when you brand yourself a victim out of a negative experience in your past, you are also expecting different handling. At present that seems obvious to understand, I only never thought about how victimizing yourself is too a course of entitlement. There in lies the true power of the "cocky-aid" books – changing your perspective.

Ok… And then I am entitled. What now?

Now the main body of the book starts to come up into play. Sure we feel that this hard piece of work we have done deserves something special – I work harder than everyone else in the part, I achieve more, and I need that promotion now! Where the fuck is it?! Maybe the problem is that you are channeling all of your "fucks" into something that is not going to cease up paying dividends later on. Marking tells u.s. that we demand to take a step dorsum from caring 110% (and getting 110% emotional) nigh everything and pick what is actually going to matter to us in the long run. Ask yourself: W hy I am giving a fuck about this so much. Why is this and so of import to me. Why are my emotions going totally fucking berserk over this. As it turns out, if y'all ask yourself why enough times, you might stop up getting to the root of the trouble and fixing your self-entitlement on the way. So stop fucking crying and figure out what really matters to you.

I am focusing on being happy! Where is my progress?

Nope. Mark wants yous to actively seek out the negative experiences instead of the positive ones. (But this goes confronting all of the other self-help books!) Why would we want to be OK with negative experiences? Because that is how we grow. We learn the nigh, and abound the most, from all of the negative experiences in our lives. Marker understands this and makes an attempt to achieve the states through his own personal journeying. Perhaps we should have but listened to Alfred all those years ago:

Bruce Wayne: What take I done, Alfred? Everything my family… my father built…

Alfred Pennyworth: The Wayne legacy is more than than bricks and mortar, sir.

Bruce Wayne: I wanted to save Gotham. I failed.

Alfred Pennyworth: Why practice we fall sir? And so that we tin can acquire to choice ourselves upwards.

Bruce Wayne: You still haven't given upward on me?

Alfred Pennyworth: Never.

It starts to get a little Buddhist, but nosotros need to larn to have the negative experiences that have come up earlier, and that will come up in the future. It is what will make usa a better, and stronger, person.  Cease giving a fuck near trying to be happy all of the time.

My Takeaway

I've been going through some "Millennial" shit recently and I didn't even know information technology. The primary affair that has been irking me is my work life. I work besides hard, I intendance also much, and I am besides ambitious. All of that boils up to one great big pot of entitlement. Bated from the entitlement, I also feel empty. I feel that I am kick ass all solar day, giving the globe all it's worth, using the most energetic years of my life, just for what? Then some other entitled prick can benefit (or baby-boomer who crashed the houseing marketplace and destroyed the environment)? Take a expect at the nautical chart below (shout-out to Kyle for showing me this) –

Ikigai: The Japanese concept that means "a reason for being." Hmm ok then. And then where do we run into ourselves here? I am smack in the heart Good/Paid For/Need, AKA – "Comfortable, merely feeling of emptiness". Yes I am good at what I practise, Yes I get paid a decent amount for it, and OK I guess someone has to do it – but I experience expressionless inside. I'm non helping anyone actually, I'm not making a difference for the better in the world (which is common among Millennials I guess), and so why am I trying and then hard? That'southward where Marking Manson has helped me. I need to sort out in my life what I should requite a fuck well-nigh, and I need to bring dorsum balance to the force. (Well maybe not that)

It's time to terminate rejecting the negative, time to stop feeling entitled, and fourth dimension to sort out the fucks.

Want more Millennial context?

Bank check out this video. Simon Sinek actually explains it improve than anyone else I've ever heard talk almost it. The guy is fucking sharp.

Thank you to Gioia @ My Crazy World of Books Blog for sharing this with me. Check out her weblog!!

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